Whitney Houston had a very popular and beautiful song she sang. It was all about learning to love yourself and that it was the greatest love of all. She said children possess an inside beauty. She said in the song that we should not walk in anybody’s shadow. These are all lovely sentiments.
Children do possess an inside beauty and it is an innocent type of loveliness. They often say what they think and sometimes, it may not be what we would like them to say. However, it is their individual thoughts and they have not learned how to curb saying things, which an adult may think is not always attractive.
My niece use to have her two grandmothers visit their only, at that time grandchild, almost every Friday afternoon. Sometimes, her best friend Kathy would come over to play with her. One day, she told my niece, that she liked her grandmother with the ‘red hair’, my Mom Lea and she did not like the other grandmother Lena, with the white/gray hair. The reason being when she was asked why she felt that way, she said “the white/gray haired one was not as nice.” This was not true; they were both kind ladies and never ever said anything derogatory to Kathy. It was her perception that the white haired one maybe was older and she thought older people were not as nice. This was the thoughts in her own mind. A French proverb said “beauty is silent eloquence.”
Whitney in her popular song advised that we must like/love our self, before we can give those thoughts to others. There are many people who may not really love them self; but still can see the love in others, like children and grandchildren they have and show them their intense love. Many people do not like them self for one reason or the other; but that can be fixed by concentrating on one’s own attributes and quality characteristics that we possess. Everyone has great assets they can call forth and if they do not love themselves now, they can learn to do it quickly. There are many others who we may perceive have no attributes, but they come across as showing that they ‘think’ they do and therefore, are not humble or thinking they have nothing to shine about.
Therefore, they give off the notion that they are consumed with fine qualities and they look at us and think why we not see these wonderful factors in their lives and living. I compliment this group of people; because they give themselves a great boost in projecting they are wonderful and full of accomplishments. You can barely say something to them, when they let you know that you are talking to a very ‘special person’ and you should acknowledge that fact in your conversation. The reason I say I compliment them is that they do not let their insufficiencies rule their lives as many of us with great sufficiency do and they go forward believing they are great ones. Jackie Gleason, the comedian use to call himself on his show “the great one.” Beauty is indeed silent eloquence and the more eloquent we appear to be, I think we become. “Eloquence is a gift of the mind, which makes us master of the heart and the spirit of others.” This said by Jean de La Bruyere.
I do not wholly agree that we have to love ourselves first in order to love others. I think that when we love our spouse, our parents, our children and then grandchildren; then we can feel their love back and that can make it easier for us to love our own person-me.
Whichever way, you can feel it; love is the most powerful of our senses and perceptions.
Tomorrow, if I feel competent to walk OK with this aching right knee, I will be doing something different. I have not had my hair done for many weeks due to not feeling like getting it fixed, because of the soreness of that mean old knee. I am, maybe, trying to have it done in a different environment, a shop that is open on Sundays, whereas most are not. I will be using a friend’s daughter who is a hair stylist. I know her Mom and she is very nice and her hair always looks good and of course, her daughter does it in the Mom’s kitchen, no need to go to the salon itself. I will try her and see if she can do it the way I like it, or almost as good and then perhaps, I will love me more tomorrow than today when I am not looking like the usual me.
I will then try out this theory of loving one’s self and see how it works out with a simple doing of the hair. It will surely make me like me more, because it will be more me, than not me. A very complicated sentence which technically could mean this: “you are your own best medicine.” Dennis H. Myers, my physician assistant used that phrase to me in complimenting me on something I did. Thank you DHM, you are the best non-prescription, a patient can have, as a medical person and a friend.
No medicines in a bottle to help feeling better; just me making me feel better right now. If I become master of my own heart, and give myself the gift of my mind, then I will become to me the great one as Gleason use to say, and all this happens because of a new hairdo, then wow, I should bottle this and sell it. All joking aside, we should all do what is best for us at the particular time and we should know that we have used our mind and heart to better daily events in life and then we can be our own best medicine.