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Elita Sohmer Clayman

Strengths That Carry Us Through Life Elita Sohmer Clayman

This is from www.livelifehappy.com

When you feel like you can’t go any further, just know that the strength which carried you this far will take you the rest of the way.

A very excellent saying; it sums it all up. I know some people who have had hard lives all their time on this earth. Yet, they smile,
go about their business and continue on continuing and hoping that something very good will happen to them eventually.

My blind aunt and uncle who I have written about in these columns many times, were dealt the extreme hardship in that both of them were born blind and they survived all their adversity and achieved the ultimate in life. They graduated high school and seeing high schools, not the school for blind students. They each had careers and each one married and were very happy. They never felt sorry for themselves and when you were in their presence, as I, as a niece
was; you felt as if you were in the proximity of someone great and who you
really admired. No one felt sympathy for them, they were just Aunt Ruth and
Uncle George who were brother and sister and about two years apart in age.
George was the older of the two and they had great rapport with each other and
with each of our family members. All the little nieces and nephews adored
George because we knew him better than Ruth. George lived here in Baltimore
with all of us relatives and Ruth lived in New York and we did not see her very
often.

When you get Chinese food, they always give you fortune cookies for dessert. Some of the writings in the cookies are silly; some are very prophetic and cute. One I got the other night said

“You will be accomplished in the later part of your life.”

Nice. This is happening to me now later in life. I am becoming successful with
my writing of these Patch articles and this one is number three hundred
fifty-nine. This is pretty awesome for an old seventy-eight year old senior. It
makes me feel very productive and happy to know that my articles are reaching
many thousands of readers who I guess enjoy my thoughts, ideas, old time
stories, new time stories and dozens of sayings that I read and collect. Also,
a little grandmother bragging about my grandchildren.

I had an aunt who never wanted to hear anything about anyone’s grandchildren, she did not want to look at a photo of them until one day, she
became one herself and then she pulled out the photo album for everyone to see
her first granddaughter. Her thoughts and ideas changed as she received the
grand title of grandmother. The smiles on her face radiated  with the thought of this little girl and she
became a willing listener to others about their grandchildren and then she
would talk about her’s. Her whole personality changed and she became a very
likeable person.

When things or events happen to us personally, then we can achieve a status similar to someone we know, who is in the same boat as the
expression goes.

They say that now that the Christmas season is approaching soon, many offices and companies have Christmas parties. When I worked sixty
years ago and it was in 1952 and I was only eighteen, I went upstairs in the
building to see what was going on for my first party there. I was shocked
because then I was a naïve eighteen year old attending a party with people we
worked with. No spouses or girl or boy friends were invited and it seemed
everyone “let their hair down” as the expression states. Employees who never
spoke to one another at the office or in the plant section were not only
talking to each other, drinking a lot with each other and making out with each
other. I was stunned and I ate my nice platter of food that was laid out on the
table and scurried on out of there, caught a cab and went home at once. After
the holiday weekend was over, the same people who were playing around with each other went back to their former ways and no longer had any contact with those people, other than they had to during the business day. It was psychologically
strange that men and women who never said a word during the work year became buddies over a party celebrating Christmas and then a few days later; they reverted to becoming strangers again.

So becoming a less than partime buddy with a work associate who you never bothered with in the workplace was an oddity to me a young girl.
I thought then that when you had a friend or buddy, it was a longtime and
constant friendship. These people must have been the exception to the rule of
friendship

We adored our aunt and uncle not because they made over us or praised us, but because they were lovable, intelligent and hopeful persons
all year round not just at Christmas holiday events. I revere them and
especially Uncle George who I knew more and saw more of during my young years and I revered both of them for who they were all the time. They had strength and they went further than anyone ever thought they could or would; and they went the rest of the way with honor, peace and most of all with a smile on their faces. The strength carried them this far and for the rest of the way
too. We should always adhere to this philosophy.



 



 



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