Give but don’t allow yourself to be used.Love but don’t allow your heart to be abused. Trust but don’t be naïve. This is an interesting set of three slogans.
We all sometimes do allow people to use us because it may be necessary in some instances. After a while, you realize it and you try to stop it. I had that happen to me in about 1967. I had gone back to get a college degree and I was going part time. There were not too many housewives students in those days and so you tried to make a friend in the class who was your own age. I had several through the years I was there, one a nursing student in her forties and she and I became student, older lady buddies. Her name was Carole and we took many classes together. Her husband was a policeman and she was expecting her third child. She missed some classes sometimes due to her pregnancy and she would call me and I would give her notes she had missed.
There was another lady and one day she reported the professor for something he or she had said. She did it over the phone and gave them my name. There was no Caller ID then, so they did not know where the call was coming from. I get notified that the dean’s office wants to see me about my complaint against Professor A. B. C. I go there, I am in a hurry, and I have to pick my son up in kindergarten which is fifteen miles away in hard traffic from the school. I tell them I made no call, I liked the professor and someone must have given my name, thinking they would take care of the situation without calling the caller into the dean’s office. They asked me who I thought would have done that and it popped into my mind that this lady use to complain to us about this teacher. I gave them her name and I confronted her and she laughed. She was not laughing about a day later, when she was called in and warned never to lie and give another person’s name for anything ever. She never came back to class for the rest of the semester. So I was a victim of sorts being used; but I was able to solve it. It can be compared to now days like identity theft in a way. It is not a good feeling to know someone did this to you, an innocent bystander. She was not a teen doing mischief, she was a lady of my age group who really committed a terrible wrong doing to another person.
So I proved myself not to be naïve, I relied on my instincts and thoughts to find who had done this to me and I got it solved and her punished.
None of us should ever let our heart be abused by anyone. We are all here, equal, decent and we love our children, spouses, grandchildren, parents and some of our friends and many of us love our pets with a sincere love too. I had two doggies and we all loved them for the time they lived with us and were a part of our homes and life. They loved us back in their animal way.
When the New Year rolls around in about six weeks from now, we all make resolutions to our self and we try in the coming weeks to abide by them. Some of us resolve to lose some weight, go on a trip, get a new job we will like better, and be more generous to others and to help those who may be less fortunate than we are.
Some of us vow to try to go to more social gatherings, maybe learn to ballroom dance or learn another sport or hobby. By about the third week in January, we may decide we do not want to do these things, we would rather eat that piece of gorgeous lemon meringue pie, we would rather sit and watch television, we would rather not travel in these trying times, we do not have time to volunteer for some helpful activities because we want to spend that time on us.
Whatever you decide, know it is for you, do not be used by some not so nice people, try to have some social fun, whatever you like, you can stay in our own state for your travel, there is much to see and even if you visit a mall you have never been to, that can be a nice experience even in this holiday season starting with this so called Black Friday. I would rather it be called Happy Friday because the color black is sometimes used for somber times and happy is what it is, it is happy.
My new friend Lee Goldberg from Morris Plains, New Jersey told me this in an email after we met last week in the cyberspace internet: he said “intricate forces in the universe at work here got us coming together in cyberspace like this.” He had Googled in the name of a relative and up popped a Patch article I had written in October 2012 where I mentioned this relative. Small world is getting smaller every day with the opportunities we have with a computer. He from New Jersey found me in Maryland. He is in his forties and I am an old lady in her late seventies and we met with the typing on the computer, about a person he is related to and who I worked for.
When Mom went to the World’s Fair in NYC, she saw the first television set being displayed and this was in 1939. She was overwhelmed at what she called “we will all one day have the movies in our house and we will be able watch it on a screen every day. It is called television.” Wow, we could not believe this and when we got our first TV set in our home, it was by then ten years later when most people who were not rich were able to afford them. They were about twelve to fourteen inches in size. It was a movie theater in our own home. Wow we thought.
Now we have computers who link people and families together by a funny named thing called Google. We all Google every day for everything we want to know about. It sounds like the name of a cookie or a dessert.
So the intricate forces in the universe bring us all together from somewhere else and if it is used politely and for knowledge, we sure have Googled with good results.
I have my new friend Lee and he has me and we have our families united in common thoughts and dear ideas and as Mom said “ we will all have one day” and there will be many more wonderful things that come together and make our lives more fruitful.
Right now, I am happy with Google, with my computer and that I am able to type and write my stories and thoughts on them on the dear Patch online and as an added bonus; I have found new friends in different states like Lee and also my wonderful ballroom dancing senior friend, Steven Behr, all the way on the opposite side of our country, in Washington State. I have added two special men, one a younger man, the age more of less of my son and one a senior like me. We all have things in common and let me say, we all are quite better for knowing each other.
The intricate forces were at work here in our universe and I am grateful every day for them.