A good saying “ the reason why people give up so fast is because they tend to look how far they still have to go, instead of how far they have gotten.”
Someone called my house and asked for my husband and I said “what is it in reference to?” We lately have gotten dozens of calls which were supposed to be illegal to do; yet it is still happening. We get the recorded calls and you cannot get them off the phone, even when you hang up and pick the phone up again and it is still running. So I always ask “what is this in reference to?”
He said his name and I knew it and called my husband. I listened for a second and I heard him say to my husband “is that the toll keeper or the gate keeper.” A nasty comment to be sure. I held back and said nothing and hung up. My husband said hi and they continued on the conversation. I told this to my female podiatrist this morning and she said she would have spoken up just then and told him how rude he was.
This is an example of people being rude to one another. I emailed this man, how rude his comment was and we are clients of his in some capacity. We will still be clients because of the service he does; but it still displays unnecessary rudeness.
We see this in the presidential debates between the moderator of this last one and the two people debating. She interrupted 28 times one man and 9 times the other man. This is uncomfortable for the viewer and the debaters.
When I worked over sixty years ago, men always made what they thought “cute” sexual references about young and sexy looking girls. Customers would come in and act like they were studs and talked to you with a wink in their eyes, as if you should be thankful they looked at you with sex on their minds. It was supposed to make the young girl feel pretty, sexy and desired. I remember that it probably made us feel vibrant and lovely. I was one of them who felt that way, being young, pretty, smart and looking for a young man coming into my life soon.
Now it would be called harassment and I am sure it is contained. The nasty comment made reference to above was made by a man probably in his forties, married and with children. I guess he thought he was being cute in saying that to my husband and he did not realize he was commenting on his client, because I am one, along with my husband.
I wrote him an email and I am sure I will get a sincere apology. That is OK; I just had to get it off of my seventy-eight year old senior mind.
Women are equal to men and many are above the man making the comments, I am sure. In the days of my young years in the 1950’s, I was one of the young women then, who made as much as a male worker or perhaps even more for the job I did. In those days, males were the ones who asked for a date and we were the ones who either said yes, because they were good looking, had an up and coming career in the making and we thought they might be a good “catch.” Of course, we were the ones who could say no and that was it. They paid for the date, picked us up in their cars and brought us back to our homes. Now days, girls call guys, meet them on the internet dating and some even pay the restaurant bills or go what is called “Dutch.” and split the bills incurred.
Times have changed and women usually get more respect and lots of them are in the workplace and are the “bosses” of male employees. We are not looked down upon as in the fifties and more women are lawyers, CPA’s, dentists, doctors and professors with doctorate degrees. I had never heard of a woman podiatrist, a woman gynecologist, a woman dentist, a woman dermatologist. I knew someone who was in those days a woman pharmacist and that was rare. I knew of a woman lawyer and that was rare too in the1950’s.
In my time, very few graduates of high schools then specialized in things other than becoming a school teacher or a librarian. Male librarians were rare and nursing for women was a big job that many pursued. Now days, there are male nurses whereas then, none or very few went into the profession.
The theme of this story is that women have come into their own and the men around who have not realized that need to know it is now and this is the way it is.
To my rude caller, you have given to me a fine theme for this current story. So far today, I have not heard a response from him to my “calling him down email”. This is OK and as the saying says “we will see obstacles as they arrive” and I will add to it, “we will see that they do not survive.”
We have not given up, because we are going real far and will continue to do so.